friendships

Friendships to me are one of the most valuable treasures in life. You have to believe that people are important and that it is a need that you have. Some people stay away from these relationships. They fear being hurt, lack of trust in another person,loosing some control, not confident in relating and expressing to people.Iknow that I would feel an EMPTYNESS in my life without having friends. as a child, I had a few friends. As i got older,I became less guarded and learned a number of things about friendships. SOMETIMES i would have to reach out vs waiting for someone to reach out to start a conversation let alone work on developing,and creating relationships that i considered as friends. I think we all have people that we see as an acquaintance, but not necessarlly seen as a friend. Friends come in all sizes,different social,racial,religious,economical and beliefs. to be a true friend means being there for each other in bad vs good times. willingness to accept that it's ok to have different viewpoints about issues. being willing to be honest,but not cruel when sharing concerns or different opinions. the amount of friends is not as important as the depth,compassion,honesty,for another person even it's just one person. Today, I shared a cup of hot tea with terry, who i consider to be a friend. we talked about her father's recent death ,last week. She usually hates to show tears or any other emotions especially anger and apologizes for having shown some of these emotions. we both have lost our parents. the arms of comfort were extended as well as honest love and concern to my friend as she has done so for me with my loss of my 1st. husband and both of my parents. as you are reading this post, do you have a special person you title as a friend. how do you maintain that relationship, and feel it's true?

3 Things

This evening a young friend of mine asked this question--If you returned to your home after going to the movies, and there was a house fire,What would you not want to be destroyed in the fire? we have 5 dogs and they are like our children. When we leave the house,we bed them down in the kitchen. They are small and we have plenty of room for them,we wouldn't leave them alone outside. they are "our babies". we would have an emptiness in our hearts if they died.Both of my parents are deceased. At xmas when I was a freshman in college, my parents gave me a blue sapphire ring. my parents didn't have much money and had to save up to buy this ring. I wear this ring on special occasions.my next item would be pictures i have of family,friends, and our dogs. My friend said that her dog, Anna, was her child/family. next she would want to save a special necklace her father gave to her on her birthday. the last item would be pictures of her dog, Anna and her father. My friend is 24. Her father died last April due to cancer. She has no family and my husband and myself are "adopted family". Anna, her dog gives her love and companionship as does this young woman. What 3 Things would you want to be saved from the fire?