Thursday, July 15, 2010

MAMA MILLIE MOMENTS #7


Lets travel back to 1973. In that year I obtained my 1st. job. I, was employed as a Social Worker at a GA. state hospital with tuberculosis patients. At that time, my parents were still residing in Penn.. In July of that year, I met Eddie, a brother of a co-worker. We saw each other everyday. After work, he would camp out at my apartment door steps. We did simple dates, cooking, picnics, going on car rides, sightseeing. We both were still watching our budgets. In, Sept, Eddie proposed marriage, I, turned him down and then 2 weeks later said yes. My parents were coming to visit me. I had shared information to my parents about this man,but wanted them to meet him before we sprung the news of our intentions of getting married. Well, you know that you make a plan but a clink happens, mine was Mama Millie. Within a two hour period, Mama Millie, had "interrogated"me caused me to ball like a baby. Some words were flying. Mama Millie was upset as I, was wanting to marry someone 13 years older than myself, a Baptist, no college ed. and worst of all divorced . I, didn't feel this was the wrong decision as I, was always "too level headed" and I seemed much older than my 24 years. Eddie, initially thought I was 28, was that good or bad? My plans to let my parents meet Eddie before I sprung on the news of us getting married, went out the door. Mama Millie looked at my Dad and said"Stephan, do you hear that she wants to get married"? Dad's response, "Let her get married". If, you could remember, my parents married only after knowing each other for one month.Dad, accepted I was an adult and very much a "grounded person". Mama Millie, backed off. I, think she felt she was losing her baby girl. After meeting, Eddie, my parents, Mama Millie and Dad accepted this news. Before they left to go back to Penn, my parents were buying items, including furniture for the home we were buying. This all "blew my mind". My parents couldn't return to Ga., vacation time issue. We had a quiet home wedding with friends and only my husband's family. As years went by, we learned the disappointment that Eddie's sperm count was low and would never father a child. I, got depressed. We tried artificial insemination, this felled. Surprising, Mama Millie suggested adopting. She now was into this grandmother direction. Well, we did and adopted, Chuck, who was 4yrs. old as well as his sister, Rochelle, age 6. Unfortunately, the adoption of Rochelle would years later fail due to some psychiatric problems. Mama Millie and Dad were great and accepted the children. My parents moved to Georgia. Throughout the years, the relationship between Eddie and my parents was good.When Dad, died, Mama Millie, was encouraged to "visit" with us until Mama Millie could decide what she wanted to do without Dad. WE, never meant for her to live permanently with us. Suddenly, an extra bedroom was being added to our house. My mother was 18 years older than Eddie but she accepted him as a son. He was a very good person and Mama Millie got along very well with him. Unfortunately, in 1991, we , Eddie, myself, Mama Millie, were involved in a car accident and Eddie was killed upon impact, we had injuries. We were only 1 hour away from home. Left with a husband, came home that evening with no husband. Throughout, this time and afterwards, Mama Millie grieved with me for the loss of my husband and her son. I, will always love Mama Millie for all that she was and for her to let down her guard and accept and love my husband. You never know how much the power of love can grow if you trust in God, yourself, and others. WE were married for 18 years, those I thank God and Mama Millie and Dad for being a part of my life with Eddie and myself.

22 comments:

  1. I enjoyed reading your story, Rose.
    I'm glad things worked out with Mama Millie and Eddie, and that you were able to have 18 years with him.

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  2. Dear Rose, I enjoyed your story, one of great love and also tragedy. One never knows what the next turn will us bring throughout life. Gerry

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  3. No, we never know what will happen on the next turn of our life's journey. A very interesting story.

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  4. What a beautiful love story. I'm so sorry you lost Eddie in such a tragic way. It's wonderful that you were able to have your mother there to grieve with you and that you knew by then that she had totally accepted your husband and was grieving along side of you. Your loss was in part her loss too. Also wonderful that after a time, you were able to find a second husband to love and be loved by. Obviously you are a warm and loving person to attract two such fine men!

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  5. I too loved your being able to share that love story. Love of you towards Eddie, love for adopted children, and the love from your mom and dad loving and acceping Eddie. sandie

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  6. Glad you shared your story. Sad but a nice illustration of the enduring power of love.

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  7. very beautiful story, Rose, and thank you so much for sharing your heart.

    Love,
    Me

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  8. I've enjoyed this Millie Series Rosie! Millie was a wonderful woman and its great you are remembering her with your writing:)

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  9. What a beautiful and sad story all at the same time. Thanks for posting a little tid bit about you and your life.
    Thanks also for coming by. I am now your follower as well.
    Peace...NM

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  10. I really enjoyed reading this..thank you for sharing. We all come from diverse backgrounds and have so much to shape our lives and thinking. His lady obviously loved you and wanted your best. You sound a very caring sweet person so made your husband happy...and I am sure he treasured you.
    Beautiful memories to always hope dear.
    God Bless you.

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  11. Your stories are always so entertaining Rose. And how funny that I just watched a show the other night about America's most haunted places. One of them was the tuberculosis hospital in KY. That stuff was no joke.

    Oh and I'm originally from Blue Rige, GA. So I'm a North, GA bumpkin!!! :-) Have a good evening.

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  12. You had love but despite the 18 years, I know you wanted and expected more. You are richer for the love you and Eddie shared. You are in my prayers. Roland

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  13. What an amazing story. Thanks for sharing it with us.

    Hugs,
    Angela

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  14. Wow Rose...what an amazing story! I am so sorry about Eddie! I had no idea you lost your husband..and so tragically! I am glad that you had 18 wonderful years with him. Life is sad and unexplainable. I feel for you and I am sorry that Eddie can't be with you today.

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  15. Rose, this is a very touching story. How blessed you were to have those 18 years with Eddie. So much in life is unexplained while we're here but you will be be together someday. Faith, dear Rose.

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  16. Thank you for sharing your story. Very touching.

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  17. Hi Rose, Thank you for this touching post and for sharing with us. I hope you will have a nice weekend.

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  18. Hi Rose, I always love reading your Mama Millie moments. These stories are touching and full of life wisdom. I always learn something important from them. Thank you for sharing them with us.

    And thank you for visiting my blog. I plant my garlic cloves in early winter. In summer, they turn into garlic heads (though not very big ones).

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  19. I was moved by your story Ms. Rose. Your Mama Millie was a great mom and she accepted eddie even if she was against with your decision to get married o someone way older than you. Eddie is a good person as well thats why you Mama Millie get along with him just find and love him eventually. I am sorry to hear what happened to Eddie, Must be a devastating experience to have lost someone dearest to you. Thanks for sharing, I learned a lot from your website. Have a Happy weekend ahead.

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  20. Rose, I really enjoyed this story, even though some of it is sad...that is all a part of life sometimes. I'm gonna' have to take a day and go back and read some older posts to catch up. You and I have the same blogging style, I have a lot of "my past" in my stories, too. Thanks for being a visitor and commenter over at Reflections, too.

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  21. Hi Rose...thank you for sharing that touching and emotional story with us all...In such a tragic time in your life to have you mom there for you was a blessing....Millie sounds like she was a very special lady....

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  22. I love your Mama Millie stories, too! You always share so much of year heart and the wisdom that has come through the love and tragedies in your life, and I always enjoy coming over and visiting with you. Life has hills and valleys, and nothing grows on the tops of the very tall Mountains, only in the valleys. This I have heard before and it is really true. This may very well help someone else to find hope to keep going through their own valley...

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